what it is like to be a female football fan

i know a lot of people don’t like football. this goes for both women and men. i have lost almost all of my female followers on twitter, because of my football tweets. being into sports, and especially football makes people react in different ways. in this post, i will tell you about my experience.

the people who know me, know what i really love football. i can rarely have a conversation without mentioning my favourite football club, the magnificent stoke city. when i meet new people, both female and male, they tend to question my interest with a few different questions and sayings.

“so is stoke city your dads favourite team as well?”
no, stoke city isn’t my dads favourite team. he stopped watching football a long time ago. now he only follows stoke city’s results, so he can bully me if we loose.

“your boyfriend must be really into football then?”
i don’t even think my boyfriend knows the rules of football. he is certainly not a supporter of any kind of team.

“where is your boyfriend, love?”
i attend a lot of games alone, both home and away. i don’t mind going by myself, as i always have fun. except for when people sitting next to me etc. ask me where my boyfriend is. i came here by myself, and i am here to watch the game. don’t bother me!

“you know a lot about football. for a girl”
this is the most used phrase, and it annoys me. i don’t know everything about football, but i would say i know a fair amount. why can’t people just say: “you know a lot about football”? i also experience being underestimated and left out of the conversation, because “girls don’t understand the passion and the game”.

there are a lot of guides for men on the internet, on “how to get your girl interested in sports?” these are often written by women, and they explain that you’ll have to bribe a woman for her to watch sports and that a lot of women don’t even know the rules to sports. seeing articles like that makes me really angry, cause it supports the thought of women not being able to be interested in sports unless a man she is close to is.

my question is, why can’t female football fans, be just football fans?

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/fredrikke

what is it like to live in stoke-on-trent?

when i moved to stoke-on-trent about 1 and a half year ago, i knew almost nothing about the midlands. the only thing i knew, was that there was a team called stoke city (which i am a big fan of) and that i had gotten a full-time job as a translator there. i was 22 years old, i knew nobody in my new hometown and i was pretty nervous.

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you’ll see this owl everywhere in stoke!

stoke-on-trent, also known as the potteries, is a city by the river trent in staffordshire. the place is has six smaller towns, called stoke, hanley, burslem, longton, tunstall and fenton. stoke-on-trent is greatly recognized for their pottery industry, a thing you understand that the average stokie is still quite proud of. i used to live up hanley, which has most of the shopping oppurtunities (including the shopping centre intu potteries). i used to work when these were open, so i didn’t really spend much time shopping, but i can definitely recommend this to visitors. this because the shopping centre has a great stoke city fc-shop!

as i mentioned earlier i was quite nervous when i arrived at the city of oatcakes, but luckily this passed quite fast. i got settled in hanley, i lived in a traditional english brick house and i also got in the routine of work really fast. working in stoke-on-trent i had varied days, because i did not have to speak a lot of english at work. i worked in a scandinavian team, which meant that i learned a lot more danish and swedish, than english on a daily basis. the company had a lot of different employees from different countries, like the netherlands, poland, greece, spain and a lot more. this definitely made the working experience a lot more fun, because you learned bits and pieces from all the other nationalities.

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but in my spare time, i got to speak a lot of english. i really fancy the stoke-accent, i must say. especially their use of the word “duck” which originally came from the word duke. this is a common designation of affection towards both men and women. this word is mostly used at the end of a sentence. one of the sentences you hear most often is “ay up, duck?”, which can mean “whats happening?”, “how are you” and “hello”, it all depends on the way you say it. try it next time you meet a stokie. i think i’ve never met anyone from stoke who does not find it fun to make a foreigner speak the stoke-accent.

when i moved to stoke, i thought my english was quite good, but i had a hard time understanding what locals were saying to me in the shops, on the bus, at the pubs etc. but i believe that one can get used to almost anything, and now i almost feel like a “duck”.

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i have heard that journalists often does research for their articles, so that is why i decided to do the same. i asked a lot former foreign colleagues what they liked about living in stoke, and i got a lot of great answers:

– it is really easy to get to stoke city matches, both home and away (because they have free transport to away games).

– if one is originally from a foreign country, stokies tend to find us exciting and it is easy to make friends.

– rent and travelling is really cheap. stoke-on-trent is in the middle of england, so you can travel anywhere cheap and fast. it is also a great place to groundhop!

– indian food is great in stoke (the best restaurant is called sangam)

– student-night in hanley on mondays, where the alcohol is almost free!

– oatcakes – a type of pancake, but with oats in it. you can buy these almost anywhere. they are served hot with some type of filling. this is often cheese and bacon. stokies love them so much, and get offended if you make fun of them.

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one of the greatest games last season, against arsenal.

i would really recommend living in stoke. it is a great place, with great people. if you do a quick google search, you will find out that not a lot of englishmen like stoke. the readers of the telegraph named it the 10th most ugly place in all of england. i have experienced that englishmen in general make fun of stoke-on-trent when i say that i’ve lived there, the funny thing is that over 50% of those people have never been or plan to go to stoke-on-trent ever. so their arguments are not really valid, i guess that stoke-on-trent is just a place with a bad reputation.

after reading this experience, i hope you will take the time to someday visit the home of the great potters!

PS: you might not know what these famous people are from stoke:

– lemmy kilmister (motörhead vocalist)

– slash (most known as the guns n’roses guitarist)

– robbie williams (known from take that)

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have you ever been to stoke-on-trent?

/fredrikke

tips on saving money before christmas

it is getting close to christmas, and you probably plan to spend tons of money on gifts for all your friends and family. but when you realize how little you actually have to spend, you need to come up with a great plan to fix this. here are some tips for saving money:

do you have spotify or another streaming program? well, end your subscription. the library has tons of CDs, all for you to borrow. i do this myself, i go to the library every day and borrow a certain amount of CDs which i save in my music library. this also is great for putting on your ipod. this is also a great way of going to the library and actually staying to read a bit, cause if i am at a library, i do feel that i have to study, at least for a while. and why stream music? streaming tends to never work on trains anyway.

do you collect anything? well, if it is valuable you could trim off your collection. everyone has duplicates of something, and they never use them, so go a head. SELL SELL SELL. i certainly know a few things i could sell out of my collections. luckily those things are at my parents.

do you shop at stores? sign up for their reward program. (a good idea is to create a separate e-mail address for this, because you’ll receive tons of spam.)

do you like making things? this is like the oldest trick in the book. people do enjoy homemade gifts, often more than new things. so start cooking, painting, drawing or whatever you’re the best at.

do you have a lot of stuff? this trick seems kind of rude, but i personally am a huge fan of it. do you have a book you’ve read or a movie you’ve seen that you don’t need anymore, give that away as a gift. people like to get things they know their friends/family likes.

do you like books? well, join this site, where you can swap books for free.

after you’ve done all of that, you’ll feel like this:
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i could give you more tips, like: make a shopping list and stick to it, repair your clothes instead of buying new ones and cut up your credit cards, but we all know that those things and they often don’t work.

how do you save money?

/fredrikke

red hot 100

a few days ago i got a book by post, made by the fantastic thomas knights. i have been loving his work since the beginning of the year when he started the red hot-project (you can see my post about going to the exhibit further down). i have bought the calendars and contributed fairly to the project, because it is so amazing. all my friends know that i love red heads, so they weren’t surprised when i bought this.

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thomas knights himself says this about the project:
guys with red hair don’t have the positive role models that girls do in our culture.  male with red hair is not seen as aspirational, culturally speaking, with very few leading men, heroes, action stars or heartthrobs played by men with red hair in hollywood or on our TV screens. also the more laddish culture of banter – that maybe is not so prevalent in female friendship circles – creates a fear of speaking out based on the concept of ‘it was just a joke’. while many people may argue calling someone a ‘ginga’ or any other ‘fun’ words for people with red hair is just witty banter, for some of those on the receiving end, the impact to their self esteem is felt much more deeply and can have lasting, detrimental effects at school and way into their adult life. red Hot is my response to this.

i really like his approach and i also LOVE the book. i’ve been reading and mostly looking at all the fantastic red haired men in this books for hours. i wish that i came up with this idea!

these are some of my favourites from the book:
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i think you all should read more about it at this website.

how do you feel about people with red hair and what is your favourite hair colour?

/fredrikke

music: king krule

since i first heard king krule under the name zoo kid i’ve been hooked. i love almost everything about archy marshall. he is young, talented and he delivers live. when me and robert saw him live in manchester in october i couldn’t have asked for anything different (except for maybe a different encore song). he raps, he dances, he plays guitar and even if he has a really non-attractive accent when speaking, it doesn’t matter, his music is great.

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photo: joost vandebrug

his voice deserves an own chapter, cause you would never expect a voice that deep to come from a 19-year old boy. which makes the music greater and even more powerful. i’m not gonna try to describe it any further, it deserves a listen of it’s own.

it is hard to specify what kind of music he squeezes out from his guitar, but a mix of everything good, like punk jazz and trip hop would maybe begin to try and describe it. with that i’m gonna leave you with my favourite track from the album, which is a lizard state.

6 feet beneath the moon is definitely my most listened to album of 2013.

what is your most listened to album of 2013 and why? 

/fredrikke